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How to Deal With ‘Playground Bullies’ Who Are All Grown Up

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I remember the shock when I heard my son had been shoved against the concrete wall in the school hallway. I can feel the tension in my chest now as I picture him in that hall. A teacher nearby swooped in and grabbed the bully. My son, shaken and injured, seemed to be able to work through it well, in part, because the boy got caught. 

Unfortunately, this isn’t always the reality with kids, and definitely not with adults. In the hallways and on the metaphorical playground of adulthood, bullies far too often go unnamed and unchecked. Adult bullies don’t play by the rules, and there is no teacher to yank them to the principal’s office.

Adult bullies don’t play by the rules, and there is no teacher to yank them to the principal’s office.

When we were children, we may have been told that bullies would grow out of their bullying ways, but that expectation can be misleading. Adults can be bullies too. But just like in childhood, the more they are named and exposed, the less power they have.

Bullies don’t grow up necessarily. They can simply just change form. Things are often more obvious on the playground when you are a child. However, as adults, things are often much more confusing, and the bullying is much more complex. It is not always obvious, at least at first, who the bullies are.

A person you thought was a friend or at least hoped would be, may turn on you. Sometimes, bullies are even nice to everyone except you. Bullying can be done in a nice tone and by “nice people.” Nothing is as pronounced in adulthood as it was when we are kids so we have to know what to look for.

Bullying can be done in a nice tone and by “nice people.”

As a therapist, I often tell my clients to trust your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, then it isn’t. Trust yourself, and don’t get hung up on labels. People will debate whether or not something is truly bullying, but that matters infinitely less than you recognizing that something feels wrong and acting accordingly. 

Bullying can look like repeated insults by a colleague at work or like a manager abusing power. Bullying can look like a boyfriend mocking and belittling his girlfriend. Bullying can look like harassing someone online. Bullying can come in the form of insensitive remarks. Bullying can look like refusing to open your social circle to allow someone in. Bullying can also look like mocking someone’s vulnerability. 

More than anything, bullying thrives in isolation. Because when victims are isolated, in a relationship or situation, they are much more likely to doubt themselves and to feel powerless.

Bullying thrives in isolation.

When I was in graduate school for counseling, I sat across from my favorite professor in his tiny office. He had a big beard and grey hair, and the wisdom to match. I wrung my hands and described to him in tears how one of my childhood friends (whose behavior I would now identify as bullying), whom I had not seen in years, had sent me the most hate-filled letter I had ever received.

I anxiously asked him how I should respond. He looked at me with compassion and said simply: “You don’t have to respond.” Refusing to engage with this bully was response enough.

Not all situations are so simple. Adult bullies have illegitimate power that has been stolen. Their strength is illegitimate strength. Just like a parasitic plant, they steal life. 

Adult bullies have illegitimate power that has been stolen. Their strength is illegitimate strength.

The difference in adulthood bullying is that no one else is coming. We are the teachers now—yanking the bully to the principal’s office in our own lives and in the lives of each other. As adults, we must learn to know our power and stand together. Our playground is more complex now, but the same wisdom we would tell kids holds true for us now. 

Tell someone.

If you were to do research about bullying, one of the first recommendations you’ll find is to tell someone. Since bullying can include confusing nuances, a witness to the behavior helps the person being bullied stop doubting their own experience. This also helps shine a light on what is happening.

Expose them.

Bullies can’t live in full exposure. They thrive in anonymity, secrecy and a lack of accountability. Too often, bullies are left unchecked. Learn to expose bullies. Naming them and naming the behavior is imperative.

Bullies can’t live in full exposure. They thrive in anonymity, secrecy and a lack of accountability.

Refuse them.

Refuse to engage with them or actively push back. Either way, remember a bully’s power is illegitimate, and taking that power back is an important step.

Get help; gather together.

In childhood, this may look like your friends backing you up on the playground. However, in adulthood it looks like gathering people, aka your best friend, someone in HR or your faith community. A person who is being bullied needs other people to create a swell of support to push back. Fight back in numbers. Ask for help, and offer that same help for others.

Recently, I sat with a friend as we read out loud the thinly veiled racist responses to her social media post. The comments were uninvited and slimy. I felt the tension in my chest again as we read. I sat with her as she read what another friend of ours said, with her permission, in order to push back on the commenters. My friend pushed back on them, and I did too. We actively refused them together.

Don’t be a bystander; we need each other.

If we witness bullying, it is important to refuse to tolerate it, refuse to look away and refuse to be inactive. I wonder what would happen if all the smaller occurrences of bullying that grow into larger issues were not tolerated. Bullying is a gateway for all kinds of hatred. It is our responsibility not to be complicit by looking away.

Bullying is a gateway for all kinds of hatred. It is our responsibility not to be complicit by looking away.

We are no longer children. There is no teacher coming, and things aren’t always so clear. However, bullies cannot continue when their behavior is exposed, when the truth is told and when we gather together against them.

We are the ones monitoring the hallways now.

Have you ever encountered an adult version of a bully? How have you learned to speak up for yourself and others in the face of bullying?

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Free, Downloadable Tech Backgrounds for July 2021!





A new month means new tech backgrounds, and this month, I’m all about those sun-soaked summer shades. July has always felt like the Saturday of summer: It’s far enough into the season that you’re in the perfect groove but still far enough away from fall that every gold-dusted moment feels endless and infinite. I love the deliberate slowness of this season—the extra hours of daylight that glide by on a citrus-scented breeze. Here’s to more moments that gleam like the sun on the waves, letting us bask in the light the way only a July afternoon can. 

 









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How To Keep Your Leather Bags in Tip-Top Shape

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Last fall, after endless hours of debate and some hefty saving, I invested in my first designer bag. It had been my favorite bag for years, and on the day I finally got it in the mail, I took it out for the very first time. Then, an unexpected thought struck me: I was a little nervous.

What if it rained? What if my jeans discolored it? Did everyone feel this way? After a quick Google search, I discovered that many owners of leather bags feel the same, and taking care of them and making sure they stay in tip-top shape for as long as possible takes a bit of work. I didn’t ever want to feel afraid to use my bags—I bought them to use and enjoy them, after all—so I figured out a system using products that prevent any unnecessary wear and tear from its elements (including those pesky blue jean stains).

Any leather bag (or even shoes) is an investment, and unexpected precipitation or spills don’t need to be a death sentence. Here’s how I keep my leather bags looking brand new:

 

1. When I’m not using them, I empty my belongings out

Sure, my leather tote that I take to work and to run errands hasn’t been emptied out since the day I bought it, but for my other, non-everyday bags, I make sure to empty them out when I’m not using them. That way, I avoid any ink stains from a pen gone wrong, lip gloss spills, or damage that might result from a pile of miscellaneous items living at the bottom. Bonus: It also prevents them from getting too cluttered, which is something I’m endlessly prone to.

 

2. I use cleaning and protective products

After my initial leather bag research, I quickly discovered that many designer bag owners swore by one brand of leather protector and cleaner (and as a bonus, it was shockingly affordable). With any aerosol protective spray, there are warnings of potential discoloration on certain types of leather. But on the countless online forums I read, owners of Chanel bags and even Birkins swore by this three-step system with no adverse effects, so I picked it up and have noticed a huge difference in how my bags have worn. 





Apple Brand

Leather Cleaner and Conditioner

The first step in this process is using the leather shampoo. As with any product, it’s important to do a patch test on a small portion of your bag before you go to town with it (I tested it on all of mine on the inside flap). To use the shampoo, I apply a small amount onto a clean cloth and buff it in, evenly distributing the product across the entirety of the bag (even the strap). After I finish, I wait for it to dry for a full 24 hours before following up with the rain and stain repellent.

After the repellent, I go on and use the second half of this set: the conditioner. It comes out in a liquid that looks quite similar to a hair conditioner, and I use it after shampooing and treating to bring suppleness and moisture back to my bag’s leather. I do it in the same format I use the shampoo, buffing it into the bag with a clean cloth. Afterward, I wait about 24 hours to let it completely dry before I use it. I also love using this on its own between treatments to keep my bags looking their absolute best and found that it can completely salvage an older leather bag.

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Rain and Stain Water Repellent

After shampooing my bag and making sure it’s free from any dirt and dust and after performing another patch test on the inside, I spray a single even coat across my bag. This bottle is a continuous spray mist, which makes it easy to coat and makes sure you didn’t miss any spots. I let the first layer dry for a few hours, then I go over it one more time with a second coating. It’ll make your bag look wet at first, but I’ve found that it dries quickly and undetectably.

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Earlier this spring, I bought the Coach Pillow Tabby (in white, no less) and realized right away that the leather was particularly soft and delicate. Treating it with these has made stains, both water and otherwise, a non-issue. Also considering how delicate my bag is, I feel like the products prevented it from wear that would’ve happened.

These products work by first cleaning your bag with the leather cleaner, then using the protective spray, and finally finishing with the conditioner. I’ve used both the cleaner and conditioner on their own when I felt like my bags needed it. They work great individually, but for a full wall of protection, I use all three in the recommended order and will keep up with it every few months on my nicer bags and shoes.

 

3. I store them in their dust bags

In a past life, I had a pile of dust bags rotting away at the bottom of my underwear drawer that I never touched. Now, if I know I’m not going to use my bag for a while, I store them how they’re meant to be stored: in the dust bag they came in.

Since I live in a small apartment, I keep my bags in a plastic storage bag under my bed, which provides an additional layer of protection. If your bag is less structured, it’s also a good idea to put something—like tissue paper—inside it so it doesn’t lose its shape while it’s being stored. 

 

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Why Self-Awareness Is Important When Traveling In Groups

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On one uncommonly sunny and warm day in Portland, my friend and I, driving back from a day on the river with freshly sun-kissed skin, were talking about some of our favorite trips we took that year, both together and with others. We realized the most enjoyable trips were the ones we experienced with friends who knew themselves well enough to voice their preferences and were able to adapt to the unexpected.

This sparked the topic of self-awareness when traveling with others and how a fun trip can take a turn for the worst when someone in the group is unaware of how their words or actions affect those they are traveling with.

A fun trip can take a turn for the worst when someone in the group is unaware of how their words or actions affect those they are traveling with.

In my experience when traveling with family and friends, whether it is a quick day trip, a week’s long road trip or flying to a different country, it is crucial to know the type of traveler you are and what type of traveler others you are traveling with are. This can determine how the trip pans out and is remembered.

I have witnessed people, including myself, attempt to warp into types of travelers they are not—whether they are intricate planners trying to be easy-going or someone who has a go with flow mindset trying to make set plans. Neither scenario ends well, and there is often a tipping point where fiery words are said, awkward silences sit for longer than anyone wants them to and passive aggressive comments are muttered under one’s breath. These situations take away from the amazement and joy of visiting beautiful places for the first time.

It took me a few years and dozens of trips to learn what type of traveler I am and the types of people I prefer to travel with. There are two characteristics that I believe create the most fun experiences when traveling with any group of people. The first is having the courage to learn about the type of traveler you are (and those you are traveling with are) and owning it. The second is having the willingness to adapt because plans rarely play out exactly as intended.

Traveling with friends who made itineraries for trips but who were also open to spontaneity, sparked excitement and anticipation. Traveling with friends who simply show up and go with the plan, yet are willing to participate in decision-making, helped the day move forward at a relaxed pace.

A large part of self-awareness when traveling is accepting who you are and who others are—both as travelers and as human beings who move through life differently. A substantial aspect of life is adapting to the unexpected and traveling is no different.

A substantial aspect of life is adapting to the unexpected and traveling is no different.

Through self-awareness and adaptability, there is little to distract from the feeling of awe when seeing the beauty of the Pacific Coast for the first time, experiencing the taste of an authentic churro in Madrid or admiring mountains that look painted on the sky in Glacier National Park. There are many experiences to have, foods to taste and cultures to learn about. Self-awareness and adaptability only enhance the wonder in traveling.

What type of friends do you prefer to travel with? What has travel taught you about yourself?

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10 New Beauty Products That Everyone is Talking About

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You can expect new beauty products to hit the market just about daily. New brands, new collaborations, new projects—beauty news has a lot to report on, and we haven’t even touched on the new products hitting stores every day. But with all this newness, you can expect most of them won’t actually inspire us. How are we to know what to buy when we’re inundated with new things all the time? The answer cannot be to buy everything in sight (as much as I wish it could). 

As a beauty editor, the onus is on me to seek out the new products that are actually worth our time and energy. I have a knack for what gimmicks are worth the hype and what we can leave on the shelves, and I can’t deny that I’ve got pretty damn good taste. Here’s a full rundown of all the new beauty launches I’m excited about right now. 





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Fibre Mascara

MAC hasn’t launched a mascara in a little while, and the Gigablack Lash is one of my absolute favorites when I want to look like I naturally have long, luscious eyelashes. This is basically fake eyelashes in a tube. It has 5mm fibers that mimic the look of lash extensions, giving you the extreme length and volume you would only get from falsies or extensions. When I wore this one time, I got three compliments from strangers on how long my eyelashes were—one was from a girl who had lash extensions on!

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Hydrating Skin Tint

It’s the summer of the skin tint, and you’ll be hard-pressed to find me wearing anything else this year (except this magic foundation that I’m obsessed with). It’s a lightweight, typically sheer-to-light coverage product that evens out skin tones. Milani came through with a glowy, hydrating version that’s perfect for dry to normal skin types. For my friends with oily skin, you can still use this with just a little setting powder.

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Stronger Hair Serum

This luxury French hair care brand is finally stateside (at our favorite place, Nordstrom!), and I immediately added about five items to my cart. From the entire line, these serums, especially this one for promoting stronger hair, are the most innovative. It contains peptides and other active ingredients that leave your hair feeling stronger every time you use it. It’s a dry oil, so you don’t have to worry about it leaving your hair greasy. After using the treatment for three months, they claim you can expect more volume, density, strength, and shine. To use, section dry or towel-dried hair into four sections at the roots, apply a full dropper (or more, depending on how much hair you have) to each section, then massage it in. Let it dry and don’t rinse. You’ll notice the best results using this every day.

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GloWish Bronzer

Huda Beauty’s newest sister brand GloWish is all about glowy, light products (which is pretty different from the brand’s other products that are basically all geared toward full coverage). They launched with a skin tint (which I’m already in love with; it’s so glowy and has such a great shade range) and this bronzer. The marbled look gives this bronzer a satin finish that blends evenly and smoothly, giving your skin that “just got back from vacay” tan—but without the sun damage!

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Classic Lotion SPF 30

Get ready to see this sunscreen brand all over your Instagram feed. Focused on the nostalgia of childhood summer vacations, Vacation is making sunscreen ultra cool. With their first product, they launched the “best-smelling sunscreen on Earth,” which, after trying, I have to agree. It’s everything I want to smell like on a beach vacation: a mix of tropical smells, the classic sunscreen scent, and coconut. It reminds me of washing sand off my feet before getting in the family minivan to go to dinner after a long day at the beach. It’s also clear, lightweight, and perfect for both your face and body. I personally have been using the Mineral Sunscreen on my face, and I’m loving that too. It has a little white cast like other mineral sunscreens, but it turns clear once you blend it in.

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Makeup by Mario

Soft Blush Stick

After I watched my favorite makeup artist Katie Jane Hughes hype this up on her Instagram Story, I knew I’d have to eventually try it for myself. Available in six shades ranging from light pink to deep plum to bright coral and raspberry, this glowy, cream blush comes in a stick format that seems easy to apply and somehow even easier to blend. Also, it’s double-ended, with a brush on the end to blend out the product. I want this for every single trip I have this summer (and hopefully, in a few different shades).

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Iconic London

Glow Booster

We’re finally seeing an influx of glowy base products similar to the innovation Charlotte Tilbury’s Hollywood Flawless Filter created. This one seems to have a thicker consistency with a more shimmery finish that’s perfect for summer, but it comes in tons of shades, so you’re bound to find your perfect match. You can put this in foundation, add it to the top of your cheekbones as a highlighter, or apply it under your makeup as a primer. Any way you want to glow, you can do it with this.

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Peach & Lilly

Peach Slices Exfoliator

From the brand that makes our absolute favorite acne spot dots is a full acne-fighting kit including a cleanser, this exfoliator, and a moisturizer. I’m always down to add a new exfoliator to my routine because I like to rotate them, and this one stands out. It’s low pH, alcohol-free, and contains 2 percent salicylic acid, glycolic acid, and lactic acid to exfoliate away dead skin and remove dirt and oil from pores. This exfoliator will not only treat existing breakouts, but it’s also a strong fighter against new ones forming. Apply this with a cotton pad all over your skin once a day at first, and then you can do it up to 2-3 times a day if your skin tolerates it.

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Uoma by Sharon C.

Cleansing Oil

We already love UOMA Beauty, but then its founder had to go and make Uoma by Sharon C, an affordable line under UOMA Beauty makeup and skincare, and I completely lost it. I love UOMA’s makeup products, so I’m really excited to dabble with the skincare, like this cleansing oil. Whether you like a cleansing oil because it’s extra gentle and moisturizing or to double cleanse for removing makeup, it’s filled with natural oils like castor oil, olive oil, and grapeseed oil, along with white mulberry extract (a great antioxidant) and vitamin E (to promote super soft skin). Plus, it’s made of 100 percent post-consumer recycled materials. Apply this to dry skin, and it’ll dissolve makeup, dirt, sebum, and more once you add a little water to turn it into a milky cleanser. Rinse away with water, then use another cleanser or do the rest of your skincare routine.

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6 Easy Exercise Tips From a Fitness Trainer






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There are a lot (like, a lot) of fitness myths and exercise tips out there, but perhaps the one that tricks most people is the idea that the more time we spend working out, the more fit we’ll be. While it’s easy to think that gym rats have the advantage, the most strong, fit, and athletic people I know spend the least time at the gym. How? They’re intentional about how they spend their time, mindful about what to focus on, and they maximize the time they do spend exercising. If you want to get into the best shape of your life without spending an unnecessary chunk of time at the gym, here are six easy tips to get the most out of your workout. 

 

1. Be specific with your goals and plan

While fitness can be a great hobby and a fabulous social scene, getting in shape isn’t something that happens by accident. If you’re interested in accomplishing a goal or making lasting changes, it’s time to get intentional. Instead of taking random classes, aimlessly wandering the gym, or going for an open-ended jog, evaluate your goals and make a plan. For example, if you want to build muscle, commit to strength training three times a week and do cardio twice a week (And be specific about those workouts: dedicate one day to upper body, one day to lower body, and one day to core). If you want to run a marathon, do less boxing classes and start training. If you’ve always wanted to do pull-ups, dedicate strength training days to your upper body and get familiar with the pull-up assist at the gym. Specificity is key, and the more focused you are on what you want, the quicker you’ll achieve it.

 

2. Focus on form

You might be itching to grab those heavy weights to show the trainer/instructor/hot person in the squat rack how strong you are, but if the weight has you sacrificing your form, scale back. While the goal of strength training is to get stronger (duh!), good form should always be prioritized over heavy weights. If something doesn’t feel right, that means it’s probably not, so drop down in weights to ensure that you’re staying safe. My golden rule? If you’re increasing weights, don’t increase more than five pounds on dumbbells or 10 percent weight on barbells.

 

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3. Write it down

Recording the exercises you did, the weights you used, and the way you felt might seem tedious, but keeping tabs on your performance is the best way to improve. If you’ve been using 15-pound dumbbells for the past year, try going up to 20-pound dumbbells and see how it feels. Write down what exercises you did, how many reps you completed, and how challenging it was. Then, the next time you do that same exercise, refer back to your notes and choose a weight or exercise that will both make sense and challenge you. Knowing what you’re doing (and when it’s time increase or adjust) is key to understanding your strengths and weaknesses. Recording your workouts is also beneficial for seeing progress and knowing when it’s time to celebrate new personal records (because celebrating is important too!). 

 

4. Prioritize recovery

No athlete gets by without recovering just as hard as they work, so make sure you schedule days to rest, stretch, and give your body a break. Whether you take the same day(s) off each week, choose rest days based on your schedule, or wait for your body to tell you when it needs a break, make sure you don’t work out more than six days a week (at most). While going hard every day might seem like the right way to achieve your goals faster, putting too much stress on the body without any time for recovery can cause injuries, overtraining syndrome, and deep fatigue that will derail your training. Listen to your body, chill out, and take breaks for optimal results.

 

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5. Be consistent

Consistency is key. Rest days are certainly a valuable part of getting in shape, but working out occasionally or whenever you’re “in the mood” will not be enough to help you accomplish goals. Doing something, even on days when you’re tired, grumpy, or simply don’t feel like it, is better than doing nothing, and it will help you keep your routine. Staying consistent turns exercise into a habit, and an ingrained habit makes the difference between long-term success and failure. My best advice: Schedule your workouts like you schedule meetings, appointments, and hot dates. If you really don’t want to work out or don’t have time for a full 60-minute class, take a walk or do a yoga flow.

 

6. Implement a fitness test

Nothing is more motivating than seeing your hard work pay off, so schedule a fitness test every four weeks to keep track of where you’re improving and what you want to continue working on. A fitness test can be as simple as counting how many burpees you can do in a minute, how fast you can run a mile, or anything that allows you to see changes from month to month. Don’t think of these fitness tests as a final exam but rather as a road map for how far you’ve come and where you want to go (“Wow! I decreased my mile time by 10 seconds!” or “Looks like my mile time stayed the same, so I should schedule more speed work into my training next month.”). Knowing what has improved and what you still want to improve on will help you stay on track with your training and keep you aware of what you should focus on in order to reach your goals.

 

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Nue Boob Tape: The Braless Solution of Our Dreams?

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The first time I wore a bra to school, every boy in my class commented on it. It was so uncomfortable, at the ripe age of 10, that I literally played sick and forced my mom to let me stay home the next day. It’s always funny to me how uncomfortable and embarrassed young girls are to wear a bra for the first few times, but in adulthood, I’m uncomfortable and embarrassed when I don’t wear one. Cue the solution for going braless without completely baring it all: Nue’s Boob Tape.

I don’t have huge boobs by any means, but I have enough there that wearing a bra is always encouraged. I also have very… how do you say… saggy boobs, so getting a bit of lift and support always makes my clothes fit and feel a lot better. But this summer, I somehow have gathered a plethora of tops and dresses that make wearing a bra impossible. Cut-outs, low-backs, deep-Vs, spaghetti straps—the fashion industry apparently has a vendetta against bras, and I’m mostly here for it. I wanted to test a bra alternative that would still give me some lift and shape without falling to my waist by the end of the day (hello sticky bra) or being uncomfortable (again, sticky bra). I gave the Nue Breast Tape a full test, and here’s how it went:

 

About Nue:

Founded by former fashion and beauty editor for Byrdie, Elle, Women’s Health, and more, Stephanie Montes, Nue is rewriting how we look at bras. It wasn’t exactly made as a solution to go braless, but rather a variation of the classic bra. The brand is incredibly focused on sustainability, noting that the average woman owns eight bras and that 32 million bras are estimated to enter landfills. They partner with The Bra Recyclers by donating bras to women in domestic violence or human trafficking situations who may need them. If you also donate your bras with The Bra Recyclers and Nue, you can redeem 15 percent off your next purchase.

 

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About the Tape

If you’re looking for an alternative to wearing a bra, this might be your best bet. This tape comes in three shades to match light, medium, and dark skin tones. It’s waterproof, sweatproof, and virtually invisible under clothes. It comes in a long roll, and you cut a piece to your desired length, stick it in place, and you’re good to go!





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Breast Tape

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Stickiness: 6/10

This is where the product was a little frustrating for me. When you use it once, it’s super sticky. But I applied it to my skin, realized I didn’t like the way it looked, removed it, and when I went to stick it back on, it had less than half of the same amount of stickiness as it did when I first applied it. This doesn’t make me not use the product, but it makes the ease of use (more on that later) a little difficult because I don’t really have the option to move the tape around once I’ve stuck it down.

Don’t worry—it is, in fact, sticky enough to stick to your nipples and make you wince ever-so-slightly every time you remove it. Not fun.

 

Longevity: 8/10

When I put this on and don’t try to unstick and re-stick, it lasts forever. I can wear it for a full day with no issues. I haven’t tested the waterproof claim yet, but that’s on my agenda to try with a swimsuit. But I have worn this on very hot, sweaty days, and it doesn’t even remotely come off. The longevity, however, is much less when you try to re-stick it back on after you’ve peeled it off. It just doesn’t stick to your skin as well, so it starts to come up at the sides which is arguably the most annoying thing possible with a boob tape.

 

Versatility: 10/10

I love boob tape over sticky boobs and other alternatives because you can completely customize it to yourself. Sometimes, I’ll use a tiny bit and just use them as nipple covers. Others, I’ll wrap them over my boobs to give me a little lift, or I’ll pull them together. This one little package gets me a million different ways to the product and get exactly what I want out of it.

 

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Ease of Use: 6/10

Since I got this, I haven’t reached for sticky boobs or pasties once because this is so much easier. However, it did take some trial and error. I watched a ton of tutorials on Nue’s Instagram of ways people used the tape, and that was eons helpful. When you know where to stick the tape for your desired effect, it’s a breeze, but figuring out where to put it can be somewhat tricky. Plus, as mentioned above, because it’s not as sticky if you try to remove it and re-stick it back on in a different place, I feel like I only get one shot to get it right every time I use this, which is honestly a lot of pressure that I can’t really handle sometimes.

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